Modern relationships deal with jealousy differently. Ethical polyamory provides a solution to partners that want to explore their sexual and romantic desires more efficiently.
Guide to Ethical Polyamory
When you are a newbie, a guide to ethical polyamory can come in handy. Society fails to understand these types of relationship forms. So, to find satisfaction in your relationship, here are a few things you should consider:
- Joining a support group. Because society majorly consists of monogamous relationships, it is challenging to get support. Look for a group that shares the same ideas as you. There, you can express your fears and frustrations while you get valuable advice from the experienced. Moreover, you will be able to find a like-minded partner there.
- Communication. For a healthy ethical polyamory relationship, prepare to be open about your STI status, the number of sex partners you have, and how frequently you get tested. This information is particularly important if you have fluid bonding. It prevents spreading infections between you and your partners. Healthy lifestyle is fundamental for your partners’ health as well. Be considerate.
- Learning. Understand the essentials of ethical polyamory through websites and podcasts without being hasty. These avenues provide a resourceful guide from sex-positive educators. They help you understand challenges you are likely to face and how to go about them.
- Enjoying mutual respect. When entering into ethical polyamory, all partners should be treated with the same respect. Nobody is a primary or a secondary priority in this arrangement. If you feel like your partners are not concerned about how you feel when left behind, you are in the wrong relationship.
- Consent from your partners. You should never treat ethical polyamory as a getaway for cheating. Couples who want to enjoy it should get permission from their partners. Otherwise, they would be cheating. Additionally, if you want more partners, the others should be involved and agree, so that it does not count as cheating.
Ethical Non Monogamy vs. Polyamory
The difference in ethical non-monogamy vs. polyamory is almost negligible. Polyamory is a sub-category of ethical non-monogamy. Contrary to what most people might think, ethical non-monogamy involves romantic feelings and sexual desires.
Of course, people involved in these forms of relationships get jealous. But, their jealousy is not from being possessive of their partners. It comes from getting cheated on, which is a totally different thing. The definition of cheating varies for couples with different views on sexuality, love, etc. Still, it is essentially an intimate, romantic or any other type of close relationship with another person without a consent of one of their partners.
Ethical polyamory can be regulated by rules. There are no definitive rules as to how partners should conduct themselves. Instead, they discuss this sensitive topic among themselves and determine what is acceptable in the arrangement and what is not. Cheating comes in when you break these rules, which is the same as in monogamous relationships.
The success rate of a relationship is communication and the level of honesty among partners. If you want something long-lasting, consider frequent communication and honesty. There are dozens of people
At the end of the day, ethical polyamory is not for everyone. So, before deciding to engage in this relationship, it is advisable to take your time. See if you can:
- Share a partner without getting jealous
- Abide the rules set by an existing couple or make your own with regards to what is acceptable for your partner(s), of course
- Share your sex history and sexual kinks with your lovers
- Most importantly, define the reason why you are in an ethical polyamory relationship